That Time I Took My Daughter Spoon Shopping



I saw this Meme floating around Facebook the other day. There was a lot of “So true” and “You get what you get, and you don’t get upset.”

I’m just here to give y’all another perspective.


About six months ago I took my then seven year old spoon shopping. There was one spoon in particular that she liked and always wanted to use. I’m not sure where it came from, but we only had one. Sometimes she would become upset if we couldn’t find the spoon, or if it was dirty. I asked her if she would like to go shopping to find more spoons that she liked.



 Those might be a couple of words that come to your mind when hearing this story.

Instead of the words above, I would like for you to replace them.



For those of you who have been with us for awhile, you know abut our “YES” Parenting. There has been a lot of controversy over this through the years.

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I don’t even dare post “The Tree” picture.

We don’t say yes ALL THE TIME.

We don’t say YES because we are permissive.

We don’t say YES because we are lazy.

We don’t say YES because we want our children to stop crying.

We say YES because of this:

This morning I was sitting down at the kitchen table when the buzz went off letting us know that the coffee was done. My daughter came running into the kitchen.

“I’ll get it for you, Mom!”



She stared at the cupboard full of coffee mugs and grabbed my favorite one. Because YES, I absolutely have a preference!  Imagine that.

“Generosity ~ The most natural outward expression of an inner attitude of compassion.”  ~ Dalai Lama

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2 Responses to That Time I Took My Daughter Spoon Shopping

  1. Andy says:

    I just love this. I struggle finding a balance with parenting from a positive “Yes” space vs getting my kids to be self sufficient. I know these things don’t need to be mutually exclusive but it feels like that sometimes when my kids shout “MOM! I’M THIRSTY!!” or “MOM! Where’s my spoon?!”…the list goes on. I try hard to not make my kids do my bidding because I’m too lazy to get something but I also sometimes feel like my kids (5,7,9) expect me to be at their beck and call and some days that’s hard.
    This is a good reminder to start with love and generosity and be patient for it to grow in them. Thank you!

  2. I love this perspective. It brings tears to my eyes. I’m not always the best at this, but I do try to let my kiddos have their preferences/quirks/tiny demands. I want them to be the fullest version of THEM not my neat version of my ideal.

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