For as long as I can remember, I have never been a fan of Valentine’s Day. I always thought it was just – “meh”. I never really cared about chocolates and flowers – blah blah blah. Yes, I’m weird. Even today, my husband and I don’t really “celebrate” it, and I’m horrible about doing all those fun, traditional Valentine activities with my son.
<<I will pause while you pick your jaw up off the floor. >>
What does Valentine’s Day mean to you? Whether it’s the commercialized idea of Valentine’s Day or the historical one, it likely means different things for different people – particularly children. So this year I decided to explore Valentine’s Day on a deeper level…..
ME: Do you know what Valentine’s Day is?
ME: Well, in simple terms, it’s a day we use to tell the people in our lives that we love them. What does love mean to you?
C: It means loving people.
ME: If you had to draw a picture of love, what would that look like?
C: I have no idea…….wait…..ummmmmm…..it would look like people holding hands.
ME: What color is love?
C: Mommy, I need to tell you what I was thinking. Hugs mean love….and kisses mean love, too.
On day three we had more dialogue about creating things for the people we love. After some time, we decided to make hand cookies, “because holding hands is love and they should be blue because love is blue”.
WE USED HIS HAND AS A TEMPLATE TO MAKE THE COOKIES.
WE PLAN TO ADD BLUE ICING SINCE BLUE IS THE COLOR OF LOVE.
While we made cookies, we had more dialogue about the people in his life. I let him choose who he told me about, and asked inquisitive questions like……
“What do you think about _____?”
“How does ____ make you feel?”
“You love ____ because?”
Here is what he said about RLs family……
RLs oldest: “I think I should hug her. She makes me feel happy, like I WANT to hug her. I think I’m getting ready for that. I just need to get used to her [He has only known her since birth and has been around her almost every day of his life – it takes him a while to let people in. LOL]. I love that she is fun.”
RLs middle child: “She is always nice to me and she always makes me feel really happy. I think I make her feel happy, too.”
RLs youngest: “She likes to hold my hand. I can’t believe I held her hand yesterday. She is funny.”
RL: “I loved her shirt when I saw her today [It was pink! J]. She makes me feel really cool. When she plays ball with me its fun.”
RLs husband: “He peek-a-boos me and that’s really funny. He has a silly face….and no hair. He only has half hair. I think he is cool and wears a cool coat when he goes to work.”
He went on to talk about his love for various people and creatures like cheetahs and volcanoes and blow fish. It was such a great way to connect.
I just loved the dialogue we had about Valentines day…..and I love that he has his own concept of what love, and Valentine’s Day, looks like.
WHAT DOES VALENTINE’S DAY MEAN TO YOUR CHILDREN??
_ Ak (MESE, MECD)